Because we need justification.

Jun. 26th, 2017 10:49 pm
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Well, maybe.  I came across this lovely article on the history of people sleeping in beds.

Well, technically, on people sleeping together.


Though - yeah, sex, too. Apparently, it's not really until the latter half of the 1800s, the Victorian period in Britain and to some extent here in the United States, that it became more accepted to sleep alone.

I think, though, that this might not have been the case in the West, as 'civilization'- and its rules -  was slower to catch up there.

So I give you "The Once-Common Practice of Communal Sleeping". To keep warm. To talk about things that you couldn't talk about in public.

And, well, you know . . .

I Puzzled

Jun. 26th, 2017 07:15 pm
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I bought a few more puzzles over the weekend and did one yesterday and today after work. It was a nice way to chill.

I'll try to hold out till this weekend to start another. Need to make them last.

Joy of joys a 4 day weekend coming up, because July4 is on Tues., due to some boss or town manipulations we will also be closed Mon. That's never happened before.


Jun. 25th, 2017 06:56 pm
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I was getting quite angry again at the world and it's treatment of people.
Almost to the point where I wanted to give up and just pretend.
But I can't. Too many people are being/will be treated horribly so I have to do what I can to combat the evil.

At work I've done a trial run of citizenship classes. We had a few people inquire and I'd been working on learning how to teach them because it was something I thought I might be able to do. I just contacted 4 people, only 2 have made it, but it's enough to give me an idea of how to teach this stuff and how to structure the class etc. So, this week will be the last 2 classes for them. I will then start up again in August. This gives us time to advertise and for me to get better prepared.
The last class though I was tempted to ask them why they wanted to do this, after the way this country is going, I myself was ready to run.

This weekend I pulled back a lot and only checked online briefly, just to get an idea of what's going on. I really needed the break. I needed to get back to some of the things I've let slide, and take care of myself which I really haven't been doing. Yesterday I had lunch with an old boss/friend. We hadn't seen each other in quite some time, spent 3 hours at lunch and then went to Barnes & Noble which was nearby and spent almost another hour. I ended up buying a few puzzles, it's a really good way for me to wind down. I started on one today and it has been fun.

I've caught up on some cleaning and what not that has fallen by the wayside, and this weekend I'm going to a bicycle shop to look at purchasing.
I put that off too long. I was trying to research a bit to find out what I was looking for, but didn't get too far before feeling lost. I found a couple of bicycle shops in the area so I'm going to go check them out.

I've been watching White Collar. I hadn't finished the series, so went back to the beginning since I couldn't remember where I left off.

I have done some reading.
Magpie Murders by Anthony Horowitz. Mostly fun, but really it was reading a Midsomer Murders but with different detective, got a little bored/annoyed at times. Would recommend if you like cozy British mysteries. I wouldn't rave about it though, but it did kickstart my reading again.

Weight of Ink by Rachel Kadish. Interesting story. It's a past and present story, takes place in London of mid1600s and present. An academic woman near the end of her career discovering some documents (well a former student found them in his house during some remodeling and  after having her look at them sells them to her university). They are documents written by a rabbi about trying to grow/teach the Jewish community in London of the mid1600s. Turns out though that the scribe is a Jewish woman, who ends up writing to various philosophers of the time, and so the story covers how all of that came about and the research into trying to find out exactly who this woman is and what happened. There were some dull moments for me but mostly I enjoyed the book. I liked the idea.

I have to read about half of the Count of Monte Cristo in 2 weeks for book discussion. I read it a while ago but details are gone so it will be almost like a new story.

Days goals

Jun. 25th, 2017 09:43 am
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some very vague goals for the day

1. get some housework done
2. make progress on writing related projects
3. close many tabs in my browser

at 10pm:
1. bedroom is much tidier and cleaner, two other rooms were vacuumed. some other bits and pieces done
2. ah, bugger. completely forgot about getting on the computer while I still had brain for writing
3. yes! Not all of them, but getting there.

Stalking, social networks and scripts

Jun. 24th, 2017 11:24 am
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*taps mic* is this thing still on?

Two things
  1. I'm gonna need to vent for a few days (weeks?) until I stop having all these feelings
  2. This was SO MUCH LESS HORRIBLE because I had support and advice and information so I am paying it forward.
In brief: I went to a tech conference, I got a call in my hotel room on my hotel phone at 11pm from a man with an American accent who said he’d been watching me, it looked like I was having fun in my hotel room, and how about he join me in my hotel room. I declined and hung up. My chat group validated my initial horrified reaction and supported me through calling hotel security, getting my room changed, and his eventual discovery and expulsion from the hotel.

On stalking: It is never OK to do this kind of thing, it is not funny, it is not sexy. It made me feel unsafe. It meant the next day, until he was gone, that I second-guessed every interaction at that conference (of which men were probably 90% of the attendees) and wasted a lot of energy managing anxiety when I could have been benefiting from that very expensive conference ticket. I’m probably going to be having feelings about this for a long time.

On social networks: I was too busy being half awake and alarmed to have an effective response when this happened. It took time to process, it was my social network who prompted me through calling security and requesting the room change, I asked for my conference ID badge to be redacted on my own, but it took a few hours before I was thinking strategically and not just feeling overwhelmed. They validated my feelings, made me feel like it was OK to ask for what I needed, and meant I never felt alone.


Treasure the good people you meet in your life, nurture those relationships and share your strength when you can.

On scripts: Being prepared, having a response, knowing what I could say or do or expect can make a huge difference to my emotional well being, and to how I choose to act. It enables me to act rather than freeze up in difficult situations, it means I can protect myself, and it means I can stand up for myself and others.

My proposed future Script
  1. Complain to hotel security, that’s what they are for
  2. Request a room change, a different room when someone creepy knows where you are is A Good Thing.
  3. Complain to the police - I am sad I did not do this, awful!person could have been going home with a police record that might contribute to a future someone’s safety.
This is gonna work better from some humans than others, I’m going to wield being a white woman-ish person as hard as I can given it’s what I have to work with.

On positive action: One of my coping strategies is to try and find a positive action I can do, it helps me channel fear and anger into something that generates better feelings, and makes me feel less helpless when faced with something awful. My positive actions for this event are:
  • To share this with you; may this be in some way useful or empowering for you
  • To inoculate my workplace (via complaining about this a lot) in order to a) share my script with female coworkers and b) let my male coworkers know this is not OK and has consequences.
  • To reflect on how lucky I am to have such excellent support networks, that there were responsive hotel staff, and supportive conference staff
Chat transcript )

Gah. The End.

Friday also a write-off

Jun. 23rd, 2017 01:59 pm
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After lazing about all yesterday, hoping I was getting enough rest, I then went and ran errands in the late afternoon (acquired 'Mao's Last Dancer' at very acceptable price so youngest could finish watching it as they had missed that class session; dealt with 'need more credit' on youngest's phone; gave in to temptation at a cheap books stall), stopped in at the shops and bought sausages at the butcher and hot chips at the chippy, and then socialised.

And then this morning I dragged myself out of bed and went with artisanat and eldest to deal with shopping. Halfway through, I realised that this had been more of a commitment than I was cut out for, so instead of going with artisanat to the next thing, I flopped in bed and let everyone else do the responsible adult things (mostly putting the cold items in fridge/freezer). Did go with artisanat to get him to work after that, and drove the car home, but have spent the rest of the day so far in bed. Painkillers, coffee, left-overs, and a helpful other individual are all good things, but even put together have not got my pain below three-ish.

life lived in dot points

Jun. 22nd, 2017 03:37 pm
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  • Tuesday night, after gaming, did online part of first aid course that I had signed up to almost at the last minute. This was being run specifically for members of the local kink community, but I lobbed in as well because I knew the organiser and I kinda need to get my certification, and I hadn't been doing anything about it.
  • Yesterday, did practical part of first aid course, so I should now have an active first aid certificate. The kink related aspects were really interesting, and it was great to see the trainer really get on board with trying to understand what likely scenarios might have been. Appreciated that they were okay with a random extra in the room.
  • Today, flat as pancake. Except:
  • Knock on front door just before 8:30am turned out to be the painter (who thinks they gave me the wrong day, and I just don't think I put them in the calendar at all. At least one of us is right). Ceiling in spare room now all repaired from the damage from the hot water service people; also the other patch in the ceiling has been painted (I paid for that bit myself). As a result, house is cold, *and* smells of paint (spare room outside door is open and internal door is closed, but the paint smell is still getting to me).
  • Oven repair person was running early; eldest and I did a frantic rush around in the 15 minutes between call and arrival to make the kitchen a bit tidier and so that there was bench space for them to work at. Oven door is in better condition than it was, but has been taken away so that the front glass can be glued back on, because apparently the special heat resistant resin is giving up, and it needs to be done at the depot and cured for ~48 h, so I'll get that back on Monday.
  • Youngest had skate camp Monday afternoon and Tuesday morning - I got bits of my report done during those times.
  • Anything else I'm supposed to have done has slipped through my fingers. Feel like I'm behind on everything - trying to be kind to myself today, and allowing for high pain and low coping because it was inevitable after doing physically and emotionally challenging things all yesterday, but, oh, I'd love to have done Everything.
  • Lotsa rain last night. Suspicious drip sounding noise above my head at some point of the night. Hoping it was dreaming (I woke a few times in the middle of really 'present' feeling dreams).
  • ...and there might be other things, but I have to go collect youngest from the train and take them to dance.

Adventures Elsewhere — May 2017

Jun. 21st, 2017 06:21 pm
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Adventures Elsewhere collects our reviews, guest posts, articles, and other content we've spread across the Internet recently! See what we've been up in our other projects. :D

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Sydney Film Festival

Jun. 21st, 2017 10:49 pm
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When I include Wonder Woman (which I really liked), I saw 11 movies in 11 days. It was… a busy time in my life. But! I think it was a solid year. I didn't hate anything I saw (rare!) and liked or loved most of these.

My faves were: Egyptian noir The Nile Hilton Incident, civil rights documentary I Am Not Your Negro, and Civil War melodrama The Beguiled.

On The Road
The Nile Hilton Incident
Throne of Blood
I Am Not Your Negro
A Quiet Place
God's Own Country
The Beguiled

movies )
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Company TownCompany Town by Madeline Ashby
My rating: 3 of 5 stars

Started off and developed well but I still have no idea what happened in the last few chapters. The ending felt very abrupt and unsatisfactory.

The world building was good, the characters were interesting, the plot seemed to progress quite well, and then it felt like I was reading the end of a different book.

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Mirrored from P.R. Kaye's Presence.

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The Collapsing Empire (The Interdependency #1)The Collapsing Empire by John Scalzi
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

I was really getting into this novel, and then it ended.

Well written, great world building, interesting and diverse characters, meaty plot, but it felt like a bit too much set-up for future novels, and not enough resolution for this one.

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Mirrored from P.R. Kaye's Presence.

Small wins

Jun. 18th, 2017 11:13 am
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I didn't remember to make my 7 things post for Friday at all, and at this remove I don't remember much. I dropped the clothes that youngest didn't want to an op-shop (and I found one that isn't explicitly religious, which my friend appreciated), I dropped the picture than needs new glass in to the framer, I did things around the house, I took youngest to skating.

Yesterday, much of the day was out of the house, so I wasn't tracking things. I achieved things as treasurer of the team (but not as many as I would like - was unable to pay coach 1 because I can't set them up as a payee; ditto another payment due). I went to skate class, and I learnt a half-Lutz, which is one of the weirdest bits of jump I think I've learned (possibly worse than the Mazurka jump, which I can never remember from one session to another). I went to ballet class, and managed all the jumps in the centre, rather than at the barre. And we had people over for a crafternoon, so I finished up some crochet squares that needed doing (mostly ones where I had run out of yarn, so needed a second colour).

Today, I've slept in, lazed around, and read a bit. And now I'm working on patchwork squares for the 365 day project. To show how far behind I am - so far I've finished January 25th and 26th, and have moved on to January 27. I have pieces cut through to February 4th, so the goal is to get those all sewn (these ones are all 3" finished, so that seems do-able). And then, if there is something I want to watch that isn't going to cause tension, I'm planning on watching something and cutting at least a week's worth more of pieces. After that, maybe responsible adult mouse does things like washing and cleaning (having said that, I've already run a load, I just haven't done anything about hanging it up).

Hello Yaris, soon goodbye Catmobile

Jun. 18th, 2017 10:29 am
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There is a strange car in our driveway. That would be the new Yaris! It looks impossibly small for Husband's gear, but it tested positive so here it is. First time the household has ever had a New new car.
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What day is it? Is it Friday? Oh, thank goodness, we've made it! Have a celebratory prompt post.

If you've got ideas to share, yay! You can leave them here as comments on this post. If you need ideas to work on, yay! With luck, you'll be able to find one in the comments that makes your muse sit up and take note, and then we'll have a lovely fanwork to oooh and ahhh over.

Prompts work best when certain pieces of information are provided: Character(s)/pairing, universe, prompt.
Example: Chris/Ezra, any, I don't like you, but I love you.

If none of today's prompts strike your fancy, there are lots of other prompts in our archive. Take a look!

Prompt away!


  • Chris/Ezra, any, I don't like you, but I love you.
  • Mary/Vin, teaching him to read
  • Mary/Vin, poetry
  • Josiah, any, OW, demons in the church
  • Nathan, any, OW, and then, there was the local vampire, a friendly sort who was actually right helpful in his way . ..
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Eight Book Minimum: This edition brought to you by Fangirl Happy Hour.

Some of you may know that I do the transcripts for [personal profile] renay and [ profile] booksmugglers's podcast, Fangirl Happy Hour. This is where it really starts to show up in my reading. It turns out that if I read the books they're gonna be talking about, I know how to spell everyone's names! And don't get spoiled, but no, seriously, being able to spell all of the character names is my favourite thing and makes everything infinitely less stressful, 10/10 would recommend.

... Of course, now [personal profile] renay can use her powers for evil to get me to read all the stuff she's recced to me over the years, but no one tell her that.

  1. Avengers: The Children's Crusade by Allan Heinberg and Jim Cheung [Jump]

  2. Another Castle by Andrew Wheeler and Paulina Ganucheau [Jump]

  3. The Unbeatable Squirrel Girl Volume 1: Squirrel Power by Ryan North and Erica Henderson [Jump]

  4. Ms Marvel Volume 2: Generation Why by G. Willow Wilson, Adrian Alphona, and Jacob Wyatt [Jump]

  5. Ms Marvel Volume 3: Crushed by G. Willow Wilson, Takeshi Miyazawa, and Elmo Bondoc [Jump]

  6. Six of Crows by Leigh Bardugo [Jump]

  7. Ms Marvel Volume 4: Last Days by G. Willow Wilson and Adrian Alphona [Jump]

  8. Crooked Kingdom by Leigh Bardugo [Jump]

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Reading Goals

Reading goal: 32/150 (8 new this post) Prose: 13/50 (2 new this post)
New-to-me female authors: 6/75 (1 new this post: Erica Henderson)
#getouttamydamnhouse: 18/90 (6 gone this post)
#unofficialqueerasfuckbookclub: 9/32 (4 new this post: Avengers: The Children's Crusade, Another Castle, Six of Crows, Crooked Kingdom)

Sidetracks - June 15, 2017

Jun. 15th, 2017 05:18 pm
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Sidetracks is a collaborative project featuring various essays, videos, reviews, or other Internet content that we want to share with each other. All past and current links for the Sidetracks project can be found in our Sidetracks tag. For more links and commentary you can follow us on Twitter, Tumblr. You can also support us on Patreon.

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seven things, Thursday

Jun. 15th, 2017 09:49 pm
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Sadly, I forgot to write my list of achievements I have been putting off as the day went, so i'm doing this from memory. I'm also counting two things that were done later yesterday, after my accounting time (quite a bit, for one of them - I read until nearly midnight)

1. started and finished reading 'Kaitangata Twitch' by Margaret Mahy. review to come (this counts as finishing something I was procrastinating on, because it was on the teetering book mound of doom, most of which has been moved to the games room).
2. had lunch with a friend I don't see often
3. cleaned up all the data entry for one endnote library, moved all items that are to be kept to the 'general health' new endnote library
4. deleted one endnote library that turned out to be text and no pdfs. This was from a paper that just never happened, so i'm happy to just delete it
5. went and helped a friend with cleaning. This doesn't count on the 'things put off', at least, not on mine, but it did eat a significant amount of the day, and it was a fair achievement.
6. dropped things from the back of the car in to the op-shop (also purchased: 2 seasons of the West Wing, which I have never seen, and two books I want to read but don't already own. And a jacket for middlest, because they missed out on the last round, being the wrong size. and some food safe little packing boxes, for youngest to make gifts for school friends later. )
7. went through the bag and box of clothes from friend with youngest, who will be keeping some. (not really something I've procrastinated on, but more prevention of procrastination, so I'm giving myself the credit).

Tomorrow, I have a long list of paperwork that needs to be dealt with. I've hopefully written all of them down in a list, and i'm going to try really hard to get through that whole list. If I manage that by lunch time, I'm going to have to find some kind of reward. Possibly leaving the house and finding a spot in the sun with a book. That was always a good choice, although I tend to find it hard to just enjoy it these days.


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